Kisah Stewardess Solehah

Awal dalam bln puasa haritu I was contacted by old friend via watsapp. Ths friend mmg come and go la. Tenggelam timbul. Kejap ada, kejap takda. Mcm chipsmore juga ada. He told me that he’s getting married. Wow! At last, I said. This guy ni mmg ada commitment issue. I even asked him whether he’s getting married to the same girl. Surprisingly, he is. Rajin pulak ko nak menunggu mamat ni. He told he wanted me to be among the first to know. Mulut manis! Kata nak jemputla apa la. Kata nak hang out la, gossip2 la. Last2 aku malas, dia pon malas. Sama2 tak cuba call each other Tanya wat happened to the plan. Ahhahaha.

So last 2 weeks, I was thinking of him. Terpikir pasai pa, u might ask. Nak mintak jubah dubai secara free. Cantek kot jubah sana. Saw some in Carrefour wangsamaju. Pegi sekali tak beli terus. Pergi lagi sekali seller pon dh tutup kedai. Barang semua habis.

So I watsapp-ed this fella Tanya watsap, bro. It was on Thursday. He called me immediately. He asked my honest opinion about calling off wedding. I asked him back whether he got cold feet or he met someone else. A lil bit of both, katanya. Heh. No, I’m not judging. I’ve been in his shoes. Haha. The difference is, ai x bermain perasaan. I rarely let my emotion sinks in, while he is emotionally attached to the new girl.

He asked whether or not to tell the fiancé about the situation. Told him not to. But when asked bout it that night he admitted to everything. Even told the fiancé that he is emotionally dead to him, and he’s emotionally attached to the girl. The fiancé wouldn’t budge. Of course, I said. The wedding is in 2 weeks’ time. Dia kata mana ada 2 weeks. Dah besok. Cheh! So much of telling me I’m the first to know about you getting married. jemputan pon tak dpt. Tp nasib baik ai tawu ko tu jantan mulut maneeessssss!!! Marah pon tak guna. Baik mintak abaya santék satu.

So I asked him what is it that causes his change of heart. Katanya there’s this girl, stewardess solehah (SS). Ahahaha. Some people are just so funny. They should think of a more accurate term before making any statement. I asked him to define solehah. Katanya SS ni tak minum, tak clubbing, selalu suruh my friend pi subuh and terawekh, since it was in ramadhan kan. Kalo mcm tu, ai ni super solehah lah? But then, he added, you wouldn’t know how solehah you are, until you’re or working in a challenging environment. Yes SS is a good girl, but then that doesn’t make her solehah. Pegi check balik makna solehah please.

What really made you attached to the girl, I asked. Selalu ke jumpa? Katanya, dkt dubai selalu lepak sama. Hah! There, there! I knew it. You were away from your fiancé, then come this solehah too hot, too good to be true stewardess filling your empty space in your heart. I wasn’t born yesterday la dude. Solehah la sgt kaannnn. I’m not saying she’s bad. I am well-informed by you that she’s a good girl. Tp you should know where to use the term solehah. He added some more, she is so so nice. He wasn’t attracted to her at first and tried not to. SS even thought he was gay at first. Of all other guys courting SS, she only wants my friend. “Did she know you’re engaged? – Yes!” So so So solehah la niiii!

He was expecting me to say something like follow your heart. You know what your heart wants and shitz along the line lah kan. He told his mother about calling off the wedding, not about SS. His mom gave the best advice, di mana hatinya masih berbelah bahagi. i just told him, SS tu baik, but your fiancé lagi baik kot! Waiting for you all these years, knowing what a sweet talker you are. Eventhough your insecure self isn’t aware of this. And even after you told the fiancé you’re not into the wedding, she can still accept you, while other girls mungkin dah meroyan. Still not enough to convince him. As he mentioned earlier, he is emotionally attached to this stewardess solehah already.

But I know he’s gonna go with the wedding. He just needs someone to push him. And he did. Tak sampai ati nak lukakan hati ibu katanya. He’s not whole-heartedly into the wedding. My last advice was for him to just redha, get married lillahi ta’ala. It’ll get easier. When you put your religion and faith in qada’ and qadar first, you will know what you really want at the end of the day. When he expected me to be like friends in how I met your mother type, I just told him of that I’m not Hollywood lah. Ai gelak2 besar in public pon deep down inside, I’m conservative. 

He deactivated his facebook. I didn’t dare to watsapp him yet. I saw a group photo at his wedding. I could see he’s not as happy as his bride, while his bride had a wide grin on her face. Maybe I’ll watsapp him next year, when I get the news that he’s expecting. Maybe that time, he’ll be happier. I pray for your happiness. “Barakallahu lakuma Wa Baraka 'Alaikuma Wa Jama'a Bainakuma Fi Khair”.

Berhati-hatilah memilih pakej umrah anda...

Saya telah mengikuti jemaah umrah bersama al- fajr(http://www.alfajrtravel.com.my/)  pada hujung cuti sekolah 6 jun 2013 yg lalu. Kami sepatutnya pergi pada cuti sekolah dan membayar pakej yg harganya lebih dr biasa, memandangkan ianya musim cuti sekolah. Namun masalah visa sebabkan kami terpaksa tunda. Kami pergi sekeluarga 12 org, termsk ibu tua yg x larat berjalan jauh dan pkck yg skt buah pinggang. Kami telah maklumkan perkara ini pd pihak al fajr dan dimaklum jarak hotel ke masjid al haram dkt n they will take care of urusan rawatan dialisis pkck saya di sana nnt.

Smpai di mekah, kami dpti jarak ke masjid dr hotel sgt jauh utk ibu tua kami. Masih boleh bersabar. Kami mendapat mutawif yg baik di mekah. Tlg uruskan masalah rawatan dialisis. Pengiring kami dr malaysia ke mekah, Tn. Hj. roslan lesap tah ke mana. X amik tahu pon. Yg jd masalah apabila di madinah kami dpt mutawif dan pengiring yg x amik peduli psl jemaah. Pakcik saya lemah kerana x mendpt rawatan dialisis berhari2. Pengiring kami clueless, katanya x dimaklumkan keadaan pkck kami oleh HQ al fajr di selayang walhal telah berkali2 diingatkan ttg keadaan beliau sblm kami berangkat.

Sbnrnya kelemahan pengurusan dh jelas masa di kl. kakak sy terpaksa berulang alik almost everyday nk setel dokumen perjalanan. Skali x lengkap, skali dtg. Skali dua xpa la. Kalo dh hari2 smpi ke besok lusa dh nk berangkat, cemana mrk bekerja?

Kami difahamkan ada jemaah sblmnya hampir strok krn lambat dpt rawatan dialisis. Setelah push sana sini, pkck sy dpt rawatan sblm blk ke malaysia. Kami berangkat blk dari madinah, naik bas ke jeddah. Kami dijanjikan naik MAS. Tp akhirnya naik air asia. Bila ditanya jemaah TH travel yg naik satu flight, mrk awal2 lg telah dimaklumkan ttg itu. 

Air zamzam telah dibahagi2 dr madinah utk dibawa naik bas ke jeddah. Smpi di airport, kami tak dibenarkan bawa air zamzam melainkan kami bungkus dlm kotak. Kami terpaksa tinggal botol kami dan beli air zamzam yg siap dibungkus dlm kotak-18riyal sekotak. Kalo 3 kotak? Kami tgk jemaah travel agency lain  bawak siap2 yg dh dlm kotak. Yg plg geramnya, pengiring kami yg non hado lg blur tu elok je bwk yg dlm kotak since dr madinah. 6 kotak pulak tu! Saya sekeluarga dan satu lg keluarga merupakan yg terakhir menguruskan pembungkusan air zam zam dlm jemaah kami. Yg lain semua dh line up nk msk ke dlm airport utk check-in. Pengiring kami terus msk ke dlm tanpa memastikan semua jemaah berkumpul. Kami dan sekeluarga lagi ditahan diluar kawasan check in lebih dari 30 minit sehingga salah seorg dr kami call kwn kt dlm utk inform tn hj pengiring yg blur suh pak guard arab benarkan kami msk

Nk check-in pula satu hal lg. tak diuruskan dgn sempurna. Tidak dibuat group check-in, tidak seperti jemaah yg dtg bersama travel agency lain. Maka timbul masalah ibu terpisah dgn anak kecil. Takpa, itu kami boleh sabar, boleh tukar seat suka sama suka. Yg mengeruhkan keadaan, apabila pramugara air asia mementingkan dan mendahulukan pak arab mak arab yg msk lebih terkemudian dr kami. Bila pak arab insist nk duduk dkt satu seat tu, maka ada antara jemaah yg terpaksa beralih dan diarah mencari seat kosong sendiri. Dua soalan: 1) why the hell did u give us the seats in the first place masa check-in yg berjam2 td. 2) boleh bagitau kenapa bos si pramugara kurang ajar ni beratkan kapal terbang habiskan minyak hire mat bengap mcm tu? Saja nk kasi can ko jalan2 cari pasal yo?

Sampai di malaysia, abg ipar saya hantar surat rasmi yg panjang minta penjelasan tentang kelemahan al-fajr dan sedikit pampasan terhadap pakej cuti sekolah yg bertukar jd pakej biasa dan tiket penerbangan blk yg sepatutnya bersama MAS tukar jd Air Asia. Setelah 3 minggu surat tersebut mendapat balasannya. Pengurusan al-fajr bukan sahaja tidak meminta maaf dan tidak sedikitpun menyatakan kekesalan terhadap kelemahan mereka bahkan menasihati kami agar lebih tawadduk semasa menjalankan ibadah. Mereka juga dengan angkuhnya menyatakan tidak mendapat rungutan dari org lain.

 Urusan ibadah kami adalah urusan kami dengan Allah. Just because org lain tak kuasa nk layan pengurusan yg lemah mcm al-fajr dan tahu tidak akan mendapat maklum balas sepatutnya, janganlah merasakan kamu telah menyediakan khidmat yg bagus. Bahkan caca merba sekali sehingga menganiayai org. Bila saya google, mmg sesungguhnya al-fajr mempunyai track record yg begitu teruk sekali. (Read: http://hajiarshad.blogspot.com/2012/09/al-fatihah-dan-takziah-pada-keluarga.html)

Tidak salah mengaut keuntungan. Tidaklah juga kami pinta dilayan seperti raja, tp sekurang-kurangnya khidmat yg dijanjikan harus dipenuhi. Menerusi surat balasan dari al-fajr yg sedemikian rupa, saya yakin mereka tidak sedikit pon rasa bersalah, mereka juga cuba melepaskan diri dari kelemahan mereka dengan menasihati kami sepatutnya lebih bersabar dan tawadduk beribadat (???!!!!). Begitu senang ingin lepaskan diri. Yang paling saya takutkan mereka tidak akan langsung cuba improve cara mereka bekerja dan menguruskan jemaah sehingga lebih ramai lagi yg akan teraniaya. Jikalau ingin kekal dlm industri ni, maka akuilah kesilapan al-fajr dan perbaikilah khidmat yg ditawarkan. Bg mereka yg masih mencari2 travel agent bg umrah dan haji, berhati-hatilah memilih travel agent, terutama mereka yg pergi dengan keluarga dan org tua. Kalo yg masih muda mungkin tiada masalah besar bg mereka.

Original pre-owned Tod's shoes (made in Italy) for sale

Hello. any of you interested in getting Tod's shoes?

Pre-owned authentic black Tod's shoes in a really good condition. Come with the original box and paper bag. Worn only a few times. Look great inside out. Size 9 UK.

i'm selling off my husband shoes. he's an impulse buyer. he bought the shoes, worn less than 10 times and decided he didn't like the shoes.  why la couldn't you decide before you actually bought the shoes. haih. so i'd rather sell these shoes than letting these original, perfect to own shoes collect dusts at home. anyhoo asking price is RM850 but it's negotiable. or you can quote me your price. help me to at least get a nice gold ring la with your asking price. hahaha.

Surat untuk bulan

To the girl i met in kl sentral tonight,

So sorry i didn't help you when i had the chance. I could have and i should have. My skepticism and calculative mind kicked in and it was already too late when i was convinced that you really needed help. You went away and i was hoping that you came to me again. But i didn't see you anymore. I experienced it once and i knew how you really felt. I just hoped and i could only pray that someone did help you. I know Karma's a bitch. I could only hope that it won't get to me in future. And i hope someone/any stranger would help me if i were in your shoes someday (touch wood!) or whenever i'm in difficulties. Please accept my sincerest apology.

- yang masih rasa bersalah

Tunggu sekejap...

Banyak benor post duniawi dalam belog ni. Dah la asyik-asyik post yg sentap. Che' POn pon tak sentap memanjang mcm ai. Sekali-sekala harus diselitkan dengan post ukhrawi. untuk ingatan sendiri terutamanya. So few weeks back ai dengar ceramah ustat mana tah on IKIM. Sorry, I'm bad with names. Lagi2 kalo tak dilihat-in mukanya. Ceramah nya amat terkesan di hati nurani lah.

It was about your daily life. Kita hidup ni sebagai khalifah Allah. berbuat sesuatu semata-mata kerana Allah, untuk mendapatkan keredhaan Allah. Same goes with your work life. You'll get more satisfaction bila bekerja lillahi ta'ala serta kurang penyakit hati. Kalau bekerja kerana boss, or takut boss, definitely sangat menyakitkan hati if you still get his disapproval or bad remarks when you have worked your ass off. At least, jika bos tidak menghargai usaha anda, you always know that your hard work inshaa Allah mendapat keredhaan-Nya. Bos kritik pon kita redho.Just take any constructive criticism as your future reminder to improve yourself. Kritikan yang tidak membina, menyakitkan hati semata redhalah.

Speaking of criticism, ustat tu pesan, janganlah membalas kritikan dengan kritikan. Kerana kritikan itu hanya menyakitkan. Ini memang undeniably terkesan di hati. I have answered criticism with criticism and it was never good. A disaster indeed. Yes you might think, orang yang sesedap rasa mengkritik ni kadang-kadang kene bagi sejibik atas muka. Biar dia rasa sekali perasaan kena kritik. Apparently tak semua orang boleh menerima kritikan dengan hati terbuka, walaupun diri sendiri sesedap hati mengkritik sehingga ke peringkat mencemuh. Dan bila anda menjawab kritikan dengan kritikan, ia hanya memburukkan keadaan, menimbulkan ketegangan sehingga bisa merenggangkan perhubungan. Perlu diingatkan di sini, mengkritik bukan bererti mencemuh dan berkata buruk terhadap seseorang.

Ustat tu kata redha sajalah terhadap sebarang kritikan. You just have to remind yourself that redha bukan bererti kalah. Sebagaimana coretan Fauziah Ashari dalam Ombak Rindu, redha itu ikhlas, pasrah itu menyerah. Tidak perlu membalas kejahatan dengan kejahatan. Sentiasa ingat kita hidup beragama, ada Tuhan di sisi. Tidak perlulah kita membalas. Sesungguhnya balasan Allah itu pasti. Allah, Tuhan di hari pembalasan (maaliki yau middeen).

Maka apa saja kritikan, cemuhan, umpatan, kejian dilemparkan depan atau belakang, yang siap2 ditambah ajinomoto bagai, just let them be. Live on. Be content with what you have. Dan ingatlah, orang yang beriman akan lebih banyak berdiam diri dan hanya berkata apabila perlu. Anda tidak rugi. Allah tetap ada. Tak payah dok sakit hati sangat la. Hanya perlu berhati-hati dengan sekeliling dan manusia yang mcm2 pe'el.

To summarize, just remember:
bila bekerja - kerana Allah ta'ala (lillahi ta'ala)
Bila berhadapan dengan manusia yang pelbagai - Allah, Raja di hari pembalasan (maaliki yau middeen)

Selamat tahun baru!

Di ambang tahun baru semalam, i took an air asia flight. You should know la the main reason i chose air asia in the first place because of its fairly cheaper fare. Eventhough kadang2 mas is way cheaper and provides much much more better service. But then it was new year's eve. It was impossible to get good deal with mas lah kan. So i got what i pay lah. Nak murah, i should anticipate crappy service lah kan. Nak check-in kat counter, kene baya seploh hengget. Luckily i reached the airport early. Tp nak tggu que baggage drop mcm harom. Sabarlah hati. Dah nak murah, dpt apa yg dibayar jela. And ramai jugala yang cheapskate mcm diri beli air asia tiket kan. Dah timbang bagai, terlebih pula timbangan. Dekat dpn counter tu jugak cina bukit unpack and repack untuk kurangkan timbangan. Menambahkan masa beratur dan kepanjangan line beratur. Yang bapak el stupido, entourage cina bukit td turut beratur dgn troli sorg satu. Bila dah setel yg kat dpn td, semua kua line and headed to departure gate. Terasa ingin menghantukkan kepala ke kaunter. Apart from services, i just wanted to point out that everyone can afford cheap air fare. So you should expect to see many kind of people and different form of weirdness.

So i boarded the plane 20 minutes behind schedule. Expected lah kan. Masa org lambat 5 minit, dah tak boleh check in langsung. Masa org awal sejam, dia boleh delay pulak. I was seated at 6a, with me mek. All the hot seat rows in front were all empty. People on board would rather not paying a single cent for that hot seats, when other seats available it seemed. Fair enough lah kan. Mek sangat lah hyper tak boleh dok diam. Panjat2 seat bagai. Nothing i can do about it. Behind me was a kid i assumed australian from his accent. I did everything to calm mek down. It was working until we almost reached our destination and i could see klcc, mek eventually got bored. We almost landed and they switched off the lights. Mek started to scream to make me let her climb and see the kid behind. Dia main2 and gelak2 sendiri. Then i heard the kid complaining to his parents that mek is soooo annoying and he couln't sleep. Eh hello! Ko nak tido apa lagi nya? Dah nak sampai pon. Awal2 td tak kalut nk tido pulak dk main game ko. Tapi takpala. Yang dok bising2nya budak. Bodo tak reti apa.

Sampai2 je, my bro was there waiting with the whole troop. I got on his keto-bah and shared what i just encountered. I wasn't surprise when KM also went through the same ordeal when they were on the same airline to OstOlia few months back. It was even worse when the complainant was an adult. Orang tua! And this orang tua komplen dekat cabin crew. Kalo budak yang komplen, kita boley la ckp dia tu budak. Bodo lagi. Takleh nak pikir panjang. Kalo orang dewasa komplen, nak kata apa? Dah nyanyuk? Amnesia? Kepala terhantuk masa kecik2 dulu? Byk sgt mkn semut itam? Kamu dah kenapa? Bodo bebal sgt. Takleh nk pikir panjang? Takleh nak tolerate sampai nak mengadu ke cabin crew?

Ai nak tanya byk soalan kepada anda yang mempunyai mentaliti yang sama dgn orang yang mempersoalkan how babies and toddlers behave. First get your definition of babies and toddlers correct. Siapakah bayi dan toddlers. Kalo tak tahu, boleh wiki.

1. Adakah kamu tidak pernah mempunyai anak kecil? Jika tidak, adakah kamu tidak pernah berhadapan dgn anak2 kecil kepada saudara dan sahabat kamu yang rapat? Jika ya, you should understand and be more understanding with people and their kids around you. Jika tidak, i bet your life must be reaLly lonely. And to complete your pathetic lonely life, please reside and live in a cave.

2. What are you doing sitting in a non-extra-paying seat of a low cost airline in the first place, if you couldn't handle a crying baby or a screaming toddler? It's natural to have that once in a while unless you have a baby crying non-stop for more than an hour. Then you and the cabin crew should at least be sympathy for the parents, if not be worried of the baby's condition, not the other way around. You should be aware that you're flying in a lowcost plane, not in a private jet. You're not the only one who could afford the cheap air fare. You should expect to see many kinds of people. Dari org mainland hingga org yg bau kari rempah bagai. Even org yg bersubang sampai ke pinggang pon boley naik the same low cost flight as you do, of they can afford it and choose to do so. Inikan pulak org yang bawak anak, bukan bawak kambing naik dok sama2. If you refuse to sit with them, i suggest that you should get your own private plane already. Yang orang lain tak boleh afford langsung. Jangan berlagak boley. We pay the same amount you're paying, ok!

3. When you purchase your flight ticket, haven't you noticed there's an option for people travelling with infant? Just so you know, infant up to 2 yo also need to pay for air fare eventhough they don't have designated seat. Their fare is much cheaper to encourage people with children travel with all these airlines. I have never encountered a single airline that forbids infants and babies to be on board. Neither have i read any of the airlines' policy that states babies aren't allowed to scream and cry or they will have an emergency landing to kick these babies out, just so you could have a peaceful, free-from-screaming-babies-journey. Babies and toddlers are sometimes unpredictable. kalo x tahan, kayuh sampan je la wei!

Semakin murah tiket kapal terbang itu, semakin ramai yang mampu membayarnya. Jika anda mengharapkan perkhidmatan yang first class so de very high class, anda punyai pilihan untuk membeli jet peribadi anda sendiri. Jika anda tak mampu miliknya, maka buat mcm x mampu. Tunjuk je kemampuan anda setakat kapal terbang murah, mcm orang lain. A little bit of tolerance will do no harm. Kalo org lain boley tolerate dgn perangai berlagak anda tapi hanya mampu naik kapal murah, mengapa anda tidak boleh tolerate dgn apa jua kelemahan mereka.

The end.